If Your Life Sucks Then Your Beliefs Suck Too


Hate To Do This To You Again But by James Wilkinson

Hate To Do This To You Again But by James Wilkinson


In recent months, I was in a tremendous slump.  I felt disconnected from my God, from life, from others.  I became so angry that I began yelling at everyone in my house, including my children.  My home became increasingly messy because I didn’t have the energy to clean up regularly.  My grades took a nose dive and I barely passed my classes.  My husband and I were in a constant state of disagreement, that I was contemplating divorce.  I had lost control and I felt completely defeated.  One day in bed, I was watching videos on YouTube and came across a series of videos that truly helped me.  While watching these videos I realized I could change my situation if I re-framed what I believed.

When I began to examine my beliefs, I realized I had some very self-defeating thoughts that lead to self-defeating behaviors.  I learned that many of my negative beliefs stemmed from my childhood, and those feelings that I felt had to be recognized and dealt with in order for me to begin healing.  Once I realized my past, and took responsibility for the role I played in continuing the cycle, I then had to recreate my beliefs to reflect what I want to manifest in my life.

If your life isn’t what you’d like it to be, then you should examine your belief system.  I guarantee that is the source of your dismay.  Your thoughts are based on a underlying belief system that ultimately drives your behavior.  For example, If you’re dating or married to someone that mistreats you, then you probably believe you’re not worthy of love and respect.  This belief probably stems from your childhood, and was made manifest in your adult life.  Here’s the kicker.  Your thoughts will support your beliefs.  You attract what you believe.  Whatever you’re struggling with in your life, you should reflect on what you believe about yourself.

If your life sucks then your beliefs do too.  If you positively change your thoughts your life will change positively.

Affirmations:  I am capable

                       I am able to change my beliefs

                       I am able to make a change

                       I have the power to move mountains

Pray, meditate, then take action.

Here’s to living essentially,


Is your belief system serving you in a fulfilling way?  Tell your story.


Here’s another video that may be helpful.  It was helpful for me.


It’s Time For a Change

I haven’t written a post in a few weeks, and there’s a reason.  I’m going through a mental revamp.

In the last six weeks, I have gone through the most turbulent emotional time in my adult life.  It had gotten so bad, that I didn’t get out of bed for days and days.  I barely ate.  I barely slept.  I barely showered.  It was rough!

Now I have come out on the other side, and I can say that I’m a better person because of this experience.  I learned a lot about myself.  I learned the importance of having the right people around me.  I also realize how important it is to stay spiritually connected to God.

If you are going through something right now, know this.  You can endure more than you believe.  You have power.  You have choices.  Make the choice that best fits you and your unit. Your unit can be your family, your team, etc.  Do what will allow you to live your very best life.  To live any other way is spiritual suicide.  Your life means something and you are here to deliver your special gift to the world.

As I said earlier, I’m going through a mental revamp, and because of this, this blog is going to be revamped as well.  In June you will see a new title.  You will see more postings throughout the week.  You will see more pictures.  You will get more of me and the message behind this journey.  Yes, this blog will still be a place where you can receive some encouragement, but you will also see much, much more.

I’m excited!  I hope you are too.  Get ready for a fun time.

I thank you for sticking with me.  I hope you will like the new changes.  I hope we all take steps to make our lives better, so we can help someone else.

Pray, meditate, then take action

Here’s to living essentially,


Be Grateful

Photo by David Wagner Posted by BK via Flickr.com

Photo by David Wagner
Posted by BK via Flickr.com

I’m grateful for my life, and I haven’t always been.  Sometimes I take my life for granted. I take unnecessary risks. Thankfully, God loves me enough to save me from myself.

I’m also grateful for my children.  Although parenting can be challenging, it is also extremely rewarding.  They’re the reasons why I want to make my life better.  I want to make their lives better, and the lives of my future generations.  My three children are blessings, and I love them so very much.  They make me laugh, cry, and some days pull our my hair, but I wouldn’t trade my “little rascals” for the world.  They give me life.

I’m grateful for my husband.  He’s put up with so much of my foolishness as I’ve gone on this path.  Baby, thank you for being my friend.  Although we’ve had our issues, you’ve been right there.

I’m grateful for my parents. My dad is my electricity.  He gives me the energy to move.  My mom and I haven’t always had the best relationship, but their isn’t any relationship that has rebounded faster in the last twelve years.  She and I have worked to make our relationship work, and it is working. I love my parents, and although they’re no longer together, the friendship is still their.  I’m also grateful for my step-mom.  She’s the perfect stepmother.  She’s really been a friend.  She’s helped me out of a couple of jams too.

I’m grateful for my brother and sister.  Although we have our own lives, and we don’t talk everyday, we still have a great connection.  We have so much fun when we’re together.  Being with my siblings truly makes me happy.

I’m grateful for you.  Yes, you!  You took a chance on me, and you’re reading my words. I want to say “thank you”.

With so much negativity in the world it is easy to focus on the negative.  However, there are some good things happening in your life, and you should acknowledge it.  Whatever you acknowledge the most is what you will manifest.  So if your life isn’t what you want it to be, then you have to  change the way you think, and find the blessing.  Find the goodness in your life.  Look for the positive. If you don’t, you’ll continue to see the negative, and thus produce negative results.  Give it try.

Be grateful!

Pray, meditate, then take action.

Here’s to living essentially.


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Happy New Year!


Happy New Year to you!

Having just celebrated  my 39th birthday yesterday, I  am so grateful for my life and this opportunity to be here.

I want to thank you for clicking the link that brought you to this blog.  This blog is about my journey to “being me, essentially”.  For so many years I’ve been what others have wanted me to be.  This has lead me to many years of unhappiness, and rebellion.  I have a different vision for myself, and yet, I squashed that vision to be what others wanted me to be.  This year I’ve decided I’m doing it my way.  I’m going to follow my dreams, and make 2015 the best year yet.  What I’ve finally realized is that the vision for my life may not look like some others, and that’s okay.  I’m finding my courage, and stepping out on faith, and I’m walking the path that was made for me.

You may be on the same journey.  If that’s true, great!  We can support each other along the way. This will be an amazing journey, that will be filled with excitement and pleasure.  It will also have it’s difficult moments when we have to accept responsibility for our poor choices, past and present.  However, by the end  of the year, we’ll have made such a transformation that our friends and loved ones won’t recognize us.  We may not even recognize ourselves.

My hope is by sharing my story I will help you in some way.  I am a wife, mother, autism parent, student, volunteer, and much more.  This blog is going to chronicle my thoughts about this life I’ve been given, and how I navigate it at the best of my current ability.  I would like for the ensuing posts to be a place where we can dialogue and help others, while having a positive conversation, so bullying is not allowed.  There is a way to disagree without being disagreeable.

So here is to having a great year!

Pray, meditate, then take action.

Here’s to living essentially.


Please follow this blog.  Thank you!

Upcoming posts

1/8 —> Where I am  vs Where I want to be

1/15 –> Step out of the box!

1/22 –> My thinking

1/29 –> Be grateful